A typical marriage can be defined as the sacred bond between two souls for a life time. There are lot of compromises and adjustments one has to make after tying the knot. It is not only unification of two human beings but also of two families.India has always had an age old tradition of arranged marriages where the family will find the right match for the girl or boy. Love marriages are very uncommon and are treated as a taboo in the Indian society. There are quite a few families even today who do not accept the fact that their children have chosen their life partners on their own. The main reason behind this act is parents are protective and want their children to be a part of good families. There are lot of advantages in an arranged marriage. As marriage is a gamble, you never know what is in store for you. It provides security and support from the family if for some reason the marriage does not work which is not the case in a love marriage. In a love marriage, if things don't sail smoothly you would be held responsible for the wrack up. You will have to fight your own battle as you will have no backing. However, the biggest advantage of a love marriage is they get to explore each other's nature and get adapted to the likes and dislikes of the partner much before the wedding. This develops the compatibility and helps them to survive the rough patches of life. In an arranged marriage, the person is a complete stranger and discovers everything about their partner after the wedding. If the wavelengths don't match and compatibility is nil it will end in a bad marriage. A love marriage gives you a chance in every phase to analyze the relationship and makes the bond stronger when it passes each test. Convincing parents, standing by your partner when the whole world is against the both of you are the main challenges that a couple has to face in a love marriage which helps them to make their marriage successful. The key factor for a prosperous marriage is Adjustment. In love marriages, the expectation level is too high which leads to low adjustment levels. In the courting phase, the couples see the best side of each other and the worst phase is yet to come and when it comes it leads to a disaster. Also, as they are so used to each other they begin to take each other for granted. So, high expectations are the main reason for an unsuccessful marriage. In an arranged marriage as the two of them are strangers the two pillars - Adjustment and Compromise work wonders in making the marriage fruitful. The married couples come with a mindset of adjusting and do not have any expectations from each other. Hence, the divorce rates in love marriages are very high in comparison with arranged.In a love marriage, the families may not accept you whole heartedly you will have to prove yourself at every stage. This is not the case in an arranged marriage.However, what counts in making a happy marriage is not how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility. Love, respect, adjustment, compromise, loyalty, trust and patience are the key factors for any marriage to work. If a marriage has all these features it is bound to be an everlasting one. :)Thus, I would like to end with the famous quote - 'Love does not make the world go round, it makes the ride worthwhile'.
So are you on for a ride? ;)
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